Characteristics of a Muslim Husband

I received the following from a dear friend, Mufti Nawaz Ahmed Khan Sahib (DB), and I thought it was an interesting read.  Towards the end of the email, it said in all caps, “NOW BE BRAVE AND SEND THIS TO ALL YOUR MALE FRIENDS!”  So, I thought, forget my male friends, I’ll just let everyone read it.  Those who would like to benefit from it may do so.  For the women who read, please do not rub this into your husbands’ faces because it won’t work to fix the situation.  In fact I believe many things here are applicable to women also respectively.  This should be read with the intention to rectify ourselves and not knit-pick and find faults in others.

No one ever thinks about the characteristics of a Muslim husband. It is always what a wife should do for the husband…and the list never ends; home management, tutoring, ferrying the kids, caring, cooking, cleaning, washing, working, you name it, she is doing it. So what about the brothers?
Our beloved Prophet SAW was not like this. So, why should the men of this Ummah? It is quite interesting. So I thought I’d share it with you!!!  What a Muslim husband should be like…

1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. When was the last time you went shopping for the best clothing? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that the Prophet (PBUH) would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.

2. Use the best names for your wife. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.

3. Don’t treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it ‘bugs’ us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day – which brings no attention from the husband – until she does something to ‘bug’ him. Don’t treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.

4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways the Prophet (PBUH) used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives (R.A). It’s a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.

5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Hadeeth when the Prophet (PBUH) would kiss his wife before leaving for Salah, even when he was fasting.

6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgment she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don’t let that be; thank her!

7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don’t have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.

8. Don’t belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. The Prophet (PBUH) set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah (R.A) was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.

9. Be humorous and play games with your wife. Look at how the Prophet (PBUH) would race with his wife Aisha (R.A) in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?
10. Always remember the words of Allah’s Messenger (PBUH): ‘The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family.’ Try to be the best!

In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah Ta’ala to make your marriage successful.

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11 Comments on “Characteristics of a Muslim Husband”

  1. maryam Says:

    Alhamdulillah! This is such an educative topic dat lotto men need to knw,cause d wyf alone cannot do it witout d support of her husband,marriage is a 2way tin. May Allah guide us all through d ryt path. Ameen.

  2. strugglingwithImaan Says:

    mashallah…very inspiring! Thank you for sharing may Allah reward you for all of this!

  3. dany Says:


  4. Mohammed Ashraf Says:

    Great advices and points that all the muslim husbands should keep alive in their minds all the time.
    May Allah bless us to be good to our wives and the vise versa.

  5. Mrs. Chisolm Says:

    Alhumduallah, this is awesome. And so very true. My husband is my hero to me, there are things I’d like, such as these and romance, etc. ^_~

  6. Bashir Abioye Says:

    This is really good indeed. I used to go against this before but Inshallah now I’ll change. Thanks for this post.

  7. Samaa Says:

    Excellent read & now sharing….

  8. ayesha Says:

    Beautiful mashAllah =) made me smile the whole time while reading this.

  9. AsiahMuslim Says:

    Hmm, chasing and racing with your husband. That sounds soooo romantic! :) Adorable, more like. :) Subhanallah, the Prophet pbuh was really a romantic, caring and loving husband. Who doesnt want a guy like that?

  10. Abdul H Says:

    Assalamualaikum maulana

    I wanted to know if you have the contact information of Hazrat Maulana Ahmed Mehtar sahib (db) in California. I wanted to contact him regarding some personal issues and I am also searching for a spiritual guide. If you have any contact information, you may Email it to me because I heard you are originally from California. Sorry for any inconvenience caused.

    Abdul Hameed

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